A Guiding Hand for Families in NICU and Special Care Nurseries - Digital - Book - Page 65
Family and friends
Siblings of premature or sick babies
What do I tell my other children?
It is best to be honest with the baby’s siblings about what’s happening.
Provide them with the information they seek however give them the detail
that is appropriate for their age. Very young children ask simple questions
and need simple answers. Always refer to the new baby by their first name,
as you would for any other member of the family.
What are some common reactions of young children to having
a baby in the NICU / SCN?
Even very small children can sense that you are upset or sad and their lives
will certainly be altered by your emotional state and the time needed to be
with your new baby.
Common reactions can include:
• Thinking they caused the baby to come
early or be sick
• Thinking they’ve made you sad or upset
by something that they did
• Acting out and attention seeking
• Thinking they are sick too
• Fearing they’ll also get sick
• Wondering who will care for me when the
baby comes home
• Regressing
Should my other children visit my new baby?
Most nurseries encourage the baby’s siblings to visit. Studies have shown that
children who visit are more responsive to their parents/carers and to the new
baby than those who do not visit and for whom the baby remains a stranger
while in the hospital. No negative effects have been identified. Children
do not usually show signs of fear or anxiety and most want, and should be
encouraged, to come back again.
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