A Guiding Hand for Families in NICU and Special Care Nurseries - Digital - Book - Page 87
Bereavement
Take your time and talk to the nurses and doctors. With their experience
and knowledge, they can be invaluable allies at such a crucial time.
When they give you information and advice, be reassured that they will
always have your baby’s best interests at heart. Your unit might have
a psychotherapist or counsellor and there will also be spiritual support
available, should you wish.
Watching your baby fight for life can be very traumatic. Some parents who
have been through this experience felt afraid to get too attached because
they were concerned their baby would not survive. Others involved in their
baby’s care said that even though their baby eventually died, knowing they
had done all they could for their baby helped them to come to terms with
their loss. In the long term, it will probably help to know you did everything
possible to show your baby your love.
If your baby dies
The neonatal unit may have a room where you
can be alone with your baby. Staff may ask if
you wish to wash and dress your baby. Parents
choose to keep reminders of their baby’s life in
different ways. Most units will take a photo of
your baby with your permission and you can
take this photo home with you. You may also
receive a memento card with a footprint or
handprint and a lock of your baby’s hair. Some
parents keep their baby’s nametag and hat.
Keepsakes like this affirm that this baby was
part of your family and always will be.
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