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Special Care Nursery (SCN)
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A Dad’s Story:
Alex
When my wife was confined to complete bed rest after going into
labour at 22 weeks, becoming a father was becoming more imminent
as we battled the odds to keep the twins in utero one more day. Little
did I know just how different my role as a father would be. I recall
being overcome with the feeling of helplessness when the twins
arrived early and they were being whisked away.That overwhelming
feeling to protect and to provide for them and to innately desire
the best outcome for them and to be strong for my partner who at
the time didn’t understand the complexity of the road ahead as she
recovered post surgery. But most of all, that feeling that there was
nothing at the time that I could do and that I had no control over the
situation or outcome.
To have these feelings is human and natural; however, as a father, there
may never be a time where a dignified, steadfast and calm reaction
will serve you, your children and your partner in the best possible way.
At this point in my life, prematurity has been my greatest teacher. I
think the desire a father has to protect his children is one of the biggest
emotions going through hospital.
The exact effects of kangaroo care, talking to your baby, and just
being close to them has not been quantified. But, personally I don’t
think you can underestimate the effects of this positive energy and the
opportunity it allows for you to bond with your baby.
I made it my mission to understand
everything about the machines,
the numbers, the medical terminology
and to be involved in the day to day
care of our babies. It allowed me
to feel a sense of control, but most
importantly, it made me feel like a
father!
For couples navigating prematurity it
is so important to be united and allow
each other to have personal emotional
reactions and to nurture, love and
guide each other.
Life’s Little Treasures Foundation | Supporting Families of Premature & Sick Babies
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