A Guiding Hand for Families in Special Care Nurseries - Digital - Book - Page 40
Special Care Nursery (SCN)
Siblings of Premature or Sick Babies
What do I tell my other children?
• It is best to be honest with them. Provide them with the information
they seek. However, give them the amount and detail that is appropriate
for their age. Very young children ask simple questions and need
simple answers.
• Refer to the new baby by his/her first name, as you would for any other
member of the family.
What are some common reactions of young
children to having a baby in the SCN?
Even very small children can sense that you are upset or sad and their lives
will certainly be altered by your emotional state and the time needed to be
with your new baby.
Common reactions can include:
• Thinking they caused the baby to
come early or be sick
• Thinking that they made you sad or
upset by something that they did or said
• Acting out and seeking attention
• Thinking they are sick too
• Fearing that they will catch the baby’s illness
• Wondering who will care for them
when the baby comes home
• Regressing
Should my other children visit my new baby?
Most nurseries encourage baby’s siblings to visit. Studies have shown that
children who visit are more responsive to their parents and to the new baby
than those who do not visit and for whom the baby remains a stranger while
in the hospital. No negative effects have been identified in children who visit
their siblings. Children do not usually show signs of fear or anxiety and most
want, and should be encouraged, to come back again.
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